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Resentment… βš”οΈ

“Bitter indignation at having been treated unfairly”.

Sure… life has dealt us all some pretty nasty cards over the years… 🀨 But at what point do we stop and say, “Enough is enough!” Carrying around the emotional baggage of years of ‘whatever’ has happened, only makes the load heavier and heavier as we travel through life.

This last year has seen some of the worst things I did not ever imagine would happen in my life, but they have… and I carry around the pain of not knowing what it will mean for the future, everyday!

All it is doing is making me feel bitter and angry at the world. And I don’t like it. πŸ˜–

It’s time to let go… of resentment.

I don’t know what the future holds. Maybe things will completely mend themselves with time, maybe they won’t. But whilst I’m hanging onto the unknown, I am not achieving my full happiness, and I worry that it effects my mood, behaviour and personality, which may filter down to the way I parent my children.

They are children, and they deserve to be given the gift of childhood, with all it’s splendour, happiness and adventure, that every single child deserves! I want to be remembered for giving them that opportunity, not be seen as hindering it. I must learn how to put my past journey to rest so that their journeys can start in the most fulfilling way.

So how do you let go of ‘resentment’? πŸ€”

1. Acceptance

Things are the way they are. It’s now reality, whether you wanted it this way or not. Learn to find joy in life the way it is now, or you’ll run out of time waiting.

Stop ruminating all the things that took place and replacing the outcomes with ‘should’ve’ or ‘could’ve’. It didn’t happen that way, and you can’t change the past.

2. Ownership

Enough pointing the finger of blame to whomever did you wrong, and take responsibility for the part you played.

Making someone else feel shame, guilt or remorse because you feel lousy, is only going to make you both feel like crap. If you keep focusing on all the negative that has taken place, that is all that you will see.

3. Forgiveness

This is one that I struggle with… do I have to forgive in order to move forward?

I read an article recently that said it perfectly.

Forgiveness does not mean that you condone whatever was done to you, nor does it automatically replace all the trust that was lost. It means you are sick and tired of feeling the hurt and anger and are letting those feelings go.

The hardest person to forgive is yourself. The most unhealthy form of self-control is holding onto resentments against yourself.

Forgive yourself for the things you may have said or done, because you were doing your best at the time, with the options you had to choose from.

4. Find the Good

Turn your anger and frustrated feelings into loving feelings. Yes… I’m serious… It will take practise and time, but if you channel your negative feelings into positive feelings, you will automatically be more open to finding joy and fulfilment.

The more you focus your attention to any feeling, thought or behaviour, that is all you will see.

5. Hand it over

If you’re a faithful person, hand over your troubled thoughts and feelings. Pass the steering wheel to Him and trust that he will navigate the way that is best for your life.

So, let go, friends! It’s not doing you any good carrying around all this resentment… accept reality, forgive and let go πŸ€—

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