We all get angry from time to time! It is actually a normal, healthy emotion, but you need to remain in control of it, or it can take a big toll on your health and relationships. 💔
Since rejoining the world and accepting different emotions as part of being ALIVE, I am learning to embrace my feelings and see them as an opportunity to learn and grow!
I am a firm believer of ‘talking about your emotions’. That’s how we all learn. There is no shame in being human.
So, after studying some information about ‘anger’, I thought I’d share some ideas with you on how you may be able to be more in control of it, in a positive way! 😁
1. THINK before you speak!
There is no rule that says you have to respond to something, immediately! In the heat of the moment, you are allowed to think about your response, before it leaves you. You don’t even have to respond at all if you don’t want to yet.
(I think we’ve all replayed conversations or arguments in our minds after the fact, and have wished we responded in a different way! 🤔)
2. When CALM, talk about it.
You can’t control other people, or their emotions. But you can control how you express yours. Do so without trying to hurt or control the other person. If you talk about how you are feeling in a calm and non-confrontational way, you will most likely find a more positive resolution to the problem, for both parties!
3. Put yourself in TIME-OUT!
Give yourself time to recuperate in between generally stressful times of the day. Eg, plan to have a cup of tea and read a bit of your favourite book after bathing the kids! (If it’s anything like bathtime in our house…. I never knew washing your hair could sound like WW2!) 😫
If something is getting under your skin, excuse yourself, leave the room and take a few deep breaths to centre yourself.
4. Be active! 🏃🏻♀️
If you feel your blood boiling 🌡 it could be helpful to go for a brisk walk or run! Burn off some of that angry energy (in a healthy way!) Being more active will help to reduce your stress levels (which can lead to feelings of anger).
5. Laugh it off! 😂
Using humour as a response can help to ease tension! Putting a ‘funny spin’ on things here and there can help to acknowledge what’s making you angry and possibly outline any unrealistic expectations you may have, that’s making you angry.
Try not to be sarcastic though, as it may not be received well by the other party!
Just like with calming anxious feelings, taking note of your breathing can be beneficial in reducing your anger.
When you are angry, you may find you start breathing quite heavily or quickly. Take a minute to slowwwww your breathing and inhale filling your lungs fully, holding it for a few seconds, and then exhaling.
Centre your mind and body, and you will be in a much better position to respond to whatever it is that is upsetting you.
7. Seek help.
Learning to control a big emotion like anger is a challenge for anybody, at times. But it’s NEVER okay to hurt somebody!
If you’re having trouble ‘keeping a lid on it’, speak up about it! Learn the skills and behaviours to overcome your anger! You will feel better for it 👍🏻