Over the last thirty odd years of my life, it has been a massive part of my journey living with, and managing anxiety. And it’s only in recent days that I’ve managed to get in control of it, to a satisfactory level. I was diagnosed with an anxiety disorder when I was ten years of age, so have always been made aware that I would probably live with it for my entire life. I have to say, it has been at its worst since becoming a Mother and being a FIFO wife, which ultimately drove me to a life of addiction, which I am so thankful to say I have now let go of. 🙏🏻
So I ask myself the question, what level of anxiety am I happy to live with on a daily basis? 🤔
Since becoming well, I have certainly learned the difference between how it physically feels to be normally anxious and abnormally anxious. I believe that it is normal to feel anxious about things like important doctors appointments, large social gatherings, interviews, and about things effecting our loved ones, etc. But I believe it is abnormal to be anxious about getting out of bed in the morning, meeting a friend for coffee, popping to the shops for milk, etc. If that makes sense…🧐
For me personally, the difference in how it feels physically is that normal anxiety feels like more of a ‘nervous’ feeling, not unlike the feeling of ‘excitement’, and abnormal anxiety makes me nauseated, low in mood and worried about myself within, and makes me question my better judgement. I wish I knew how to teach any person how to recognise if they are feeling normal or abnormal anxiety within themselves, but I honestly think it is something that is figured out personally, and with the support of professionals.
I read an article recently about being an anxious parent, and it listed some signs that you may relate to, if you are worried you may be suffering from anxiety. Some of the signs could be;
😳 trouble sleeping or falling back to sleep after you’ve been disturbed,
😳 the feeling of needing to be busy all the time or having trouble sitting still or relaxing,
😳 loss of appetite or a change in weight,
😳 a heavy ‘weighted’ feeling to your chest,
😳 nausea or butterflies in your stomach arising about trivial or small things,
😳 forgetting simple things or memory loss.
I can relate to these feelings when I am experiencing abnormal anxiety… I become so inwardly focused that I have trouble seeing the situation as it is clearly. I have learned how to catch myself out when I start to ‘dwell’ or think ‘negatively’ about an upcoming event or appointment I have coming up. But it’s a hard skill to learn, ‘catching yourself out’…
So are you worried you may be experiencing a level of anxiety that you are not quite happy with?
My advice is to first speak to a GP who is experienced in dealing with anxiety and anxiety related disorders, and is UP TO DATE with modern treatments. (In my own experience, I have come across a lot of old school methods for managing anxiety that are very old fashioned and unhelpful). This doesn’t mean that they are going to think you are mentally ill and straight away put you on medication or in a straight jacket! Your anxiety may simply be a result of an event that has happened in your life that you haven’t let go of, or it may be diagnosed as a disorder. I think accepting help is important. You DO NOT have to live with high levels of anxiety. Life can really be enjoyable, and SHOULD BE! ☀️
Taking that first step to accepting someone else’s opinion on how you are and most probably have been feeling for quite a while, is often the hardest part! But I urge you, and encourage you, and assure you, if you keep working to better yourself, IT IS SOOOOOO WORTH IT! To wake up everyday happy, excited, healthy and positive is AMAZING!!!! EVERYONE deserves this!!!!! 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
If you are reading this and still feeling a little hesitant about the journey you may be facing, drop me a line!
I’m not a doctor, or a medical professional, I have just overcome my own personal fears and anxieties and I believe that everyone deserves to be heard!
Look after yourself, stay well 🙏🏻❤️